Learning to be lonely

Dictionary.com describes boredum as the state of being bored and loneliness as affected with, characterized by, or causing a depressing feeling of being alone; lonesome. In my opinion a combination of the two is a serious condition and can often lead to extreme acts of desperation. . So whats the cure? How do we prevent boredum? I believe the only real cure for boredum is human connection, and the most joy in life we recieve comes from our interactions with other people. For example; my best friend and I always have good conversation because we have a lot in common. There is never really a dull moment when we are hanging out because we both talk each others ears off. We are able to connect in a way that continually allows us to appreciate one anothers friendship. But when my best friend is unavailable, or I find myself disireing the company from someone of the opposite sex, well this often leads to confusion and dissatisfaction. I enjoy the company of my male friends, but at the end of the day I cannot help but feel that they desire something more than just my friendship, and because of that simple fact, I cannot connect witht them in a way that does not lead to awkward feelings of confusion, and self doubt. Am I waisting my time? Can I truly have friends of the opposite sex? Then there is the more extreme case, when I am bored and lonely and I know exactly who I want to connect with, but that person is no longer in my life. Now, the more naive and less prideful me would probably send this person a text message, because just mere conversation would serve as a remedy for this suffering in my soul. Or, I'd just call someone else, anybody whom I know would make time to talk, and have meaningless conversation without question. However, the more mature me who realizes that pain is real and you just have to deal with it, is choosing to tough it out and thus I am learning to be lonely....